I told my fiance that I was d, and he completely lost it... What do I do?!?

well, he really cares about you, thats for sure. you can talk to him more about it. let him know that you miss the way you were before he knew. i imagine that it'll get better with time, he's just struggling to wrap his mind around the cruelty that you experienced. i think it sounds like he also feels really bad for bringing back the memory with his uality, and for forcing a comparison between him and your attacker. i bet he feels guilty for letting himself get carried away in the moment since it caused such a serious and bad response in you. i think he really cares about you, and honesty with him will be the best approach here. i really do think time will help too, he just needs to get his thoughts and emotions straight.